I am not competent to consummate my nuptials!! HELP ME!
My problem is that i'm still virgin. Everything is perfect within our relationship, the foreplay the hugging, kissing, etc, BUT when he is ready to enter me, i just push him away.
I know i'm not frigid and i know i don't hold male-phobia or whatever. I WANT to make love to my husband, but i assume the fear of pain make me push him away. He's quite huge when erect and I think that anxious me a bit on our wedding night.
I grain guilty/ashamed of myself that I am not able to satisfy my wonderful husband - who is thoroughly patient and understanding and is ready to wait for as long as it takes for me to perceive comfortable.
Please help this desperate housewife!!
PS: 1. Is there a uncertainty that my vaginal opening is too small?
2. Should the foreskin of the penis be pushed back during sex for easier infiltration?
Answers: Your second question's answer you gave correctly. For first question, yes, nearby is 100 % chance & vaginal opening of most of virgin girls is amall. Ask him to rub your clitoris. It will lubricate the vagina & that will engender penetration very graceful for him. If you're scared agian, ask him to insert his middle finger in your vagina slowly & label a small round of it again & again. It will reduce your fear slowly & wipe out ultimately forever. Ask him to apply a cream or oil or gell on the tip of his penis. After arousal of both, lie on a soft bed on your vertebrae & place a thick pillow below your hips to elevate your vaginal opening & straighten your legs making V shape. Now stretch the skin at both sides of your valva(vaginal opening) outward by thumbs of your both hand to make it round & ask him to insert his erected penis in that slowly by fully suppressing his ejaculation out of excitement till it reach inside & stops going further easily. He has to in reality lie on you face to facade first putting his knees in between your thighs on the bed. It is easy & smooth to do so & don't be afraid at adjectives at this moment otherwise, you can't have sexual experience in vivacity. It is very sweet & totally painless exercise. Now lying on you, he should hold his hands around your d??colletage strongly & hold your nipples one by one by his mouth & rub them with his tongue. The moment you're superexcited, he should push further in his penis by sudden big force till it breaks your hymen if it is intact, enter your uterus by crossing the smooth & narrow opening of that. At that moment, he should spray out his semen by ejaculate fully & making strokes to please you. Do it again & again same night till you're satisfied. Before have any sexual intercourse, take a glasful warm milk beside pure honey dissolved in that at least partly an hour before penetration to own enough strength & no fear to wallow in most. Wash sex organs of both by a little warm hose down before starting foreplay even. Sexual intercourse reaching orgasm is very sweet probably the sweetest, painless & rare exciting experience in time of a young person giving strong & sweet burst of ticklings within & around sex organs, abdomen, lungs, neck & brain giving best resolute & unforgettable satisfaction within life. A girl enjoys much more than the boy(at lowest 10 times ) as God made them so. Girls are naturally very shy. Don't hold any phobia as it's all imaginary. In initial days after my marrigae I've more than five sexual intercourses every darkness with my wife & those sweetest experiences increased our love & affections tremendously permanently. Actually you're a deeply simple , innocent & cautious lady but near is nothing dangerous at adjectives in it. Your phobia is totally imaginary. I've already talk on this earlier for girls & boys like tou. Read at my profile. Gather up your entire guts & do it fearlessly. Good luck!.
Six week time is too long and every appriciation for your husband's long-suffering.Vagina always has the capaciy to carry penis of human and adjust itself.You have to be patient and carefree once and cooperate your husband .Use some lubricant and once you have allowed you will please pleasure and next time will want more for your thrill.Your fear is psychological not in actual. Cooperate your husband if you want to rescue your marriage & enjoy the vivacity. Your Answer:
You have stated that " He's quite huge when erect ".
I deliberate you are an experienced person and comparing the ''size" and become nervous after seeing his "size"'. Is it the suitcase ??
Answer to Q.1. Vagina has the capacity to thieve any size.Initially,it needs lubrication and enough foreplay.
Answer to Q.2. Usually, skin get hold of pushed as the penis enters in the vagina. No hard work needed.
My advise : Relax, enjoy, tolerate him also enjoy you otherwise it will lead to frustations between both of you..
It is a conventional behaviour when you entered into wedding without having sexual experience. Don't frenzy. If it is his manhood that scares you, why don't you try some lubrication of his manhood before access? Using Vaseline can help.
Advice:
Get yourself together and start having sex beside your husband if you want to keep him. .
You must talk something like your fears to your husband and suggest him use a large quantity of lubricant past trying to enter. Apply a lubricant like mustard oil, coconut grease, vaseline, etc., lavishly on his tool and on your vaginal lips. Also request him to get into slowly and may be not fully during the first attempt. I am sure this will help. Just think going on for your poor husband!
That would make me want to right away. I love to please, so I would do anything to make my man optimistic.
Just go for it! Have a few glasses of wine so you wont be so worried and nervous (it would hurt if you tensed up, and he wouldn't be able to get in). Exhale and focus on relaxing. Everyone does it, and it's similar to pringles. Once you pop, you can't stop!!.
I think you are too much worried about the torment or vaginal opening which is not in your hand. Let him have a go once so that you'll come to know just about whether you feel pain or the initial is small. Without doing it practically how can you come to a conclusion? Relax.
Have enough foreplay.
Don't be afraid.
You should not deny him his right to have sex near you.Otherwise this may lead to problems in your matrimonial.
If you deny him sex , he may get irritated and look here and there for sexual pleasure..
KY Jelly would be fitting and before you have sex try and relax.. Maybe a chalice of wine? The vagina will expand to meet your husbands needs. Don't verbs about that. The vagina is very flexible! Have him do some foreplay on you and you'll be fine :) You should not consternation. This place shall become a way out for the child and it shall be bigger and this hole shall allow the child to come out safely. Please wallow in this peach point because real sex is attached with thius meeting point..
1. Dont worry u r fine with anything u got...it can give birth to a kid.
2. Better hold foreskin covering the glans, then the foreskin will open inside u, will explanation less pain(due to natural lubricant inside foreskin) You mightn't approaching this answer but get some what drunk first and go into a position where on earth you can't push him away.
I know how you feel I once punched a guy in the stomach! He wasn't impressed..
Hi,
This is hugely commen in newly merried ladies. To over come this pl. apply KY jelly on your husband organ. You will not enjoy any pain.
Enjoy Life .
use lubrication and relax .. dont squeez urself down there
i be having a hard time on my first time as in good health becuz i was too nervous and so dry "down there" so we used lube.
use some cream while doing sex ..forgot the horror enjoy the moment first try some sex toys.
Dear ... Dont fear zilch will happen be cool .... its really very doomed to failure if u dont satisfy ur hubby .. very grief-stricken of that guy .... plz co-orate with him .. just try today hope u will satify him be a right wife to ur lovely hubby... dont ignore him yaaaa! they will also feel unpromising when he goes out & friends ask abt that .... what he will tell plz have a handle on, ur a girl ..... u should over come.
Wish u all the best! dont push him yaaaaa! were he will walk .. if u do like that understand dear
Guys they cannot control for more days its already 6 weeks
dance be happy u'll also enjoy step head..
If you are tense it is never going to evolve. Your husband sounds like a very awesome man. I applaud him for mortal so patient with you. Like others own said, use some KY jelly. They have all kind. I would start out with the regular one. They first time might have some slight anguish, it would be the first time of intercourse and your vagina is not used to that. You might bleed some, DON"T WORRY, that is everyday. Relax and enjoy your husband. You are missing out on a wonderful thing. Once you start you are going to want it adjectives the time. Good luck to you. I'm a new bride myself who waited for marital. You need to just try. I be terrified at how big my husband was but it didn't stop me. Your vaginal passage is fine! We were designed to be able to hold sex. Now it might be painful the first time and you might bleed but its designed to stretch out so the next time will be better. Just progress really slow and use your hand to ease him surrounded by. The tenser you are, the more chance its going to hurt.
Just communicate with him and update him that if it hurts too much you're going to need him to stop. I had to transmit my husband to stop and the next time was so much better--just that first time be painful. You'll heal immediately.
Just put his needs and wanting to make him healthy more important than your fear. My hubby is circumcised so I can't minister to you with your second question.
Good luck. Take more time if you involve to, but its really not going to be that bad.