Mature reader singular please?
Answers: I'm a mature reader and I'm here to tell you in that is absolutely nothing wrong near masturbating. Telling her it's "very bad" and getting her to stop is going to really hurt her devlopment and cause her to enjoy really screwed up perceptions of sex and sexual relationships. You're NOT helping her self-esteem by telling her this.
Don't try to assistance her from the angle of "what would a priest do" because if you believe that priests are fully asexual then you're incredibly naive and should be surrounded by a position where you have influence over young-looking hearts and minds.
You CAN be a devout Christian and still explore your own sexuality..
You can tell her that it's certainly very healthy. God frowns upon adultery and pre-marital sex, but not necessarily masterbation (depends on the denomination).
I guess you should tell her that God gave women and men sexuality and, if she belives surrounded by creative design, it feels good for a purpose. One day, when she is married, it isn't wrong to enjoy have sex with her husband, and part of a able-bodied sex life when she's older is knowing her body. Parts of the Bible even gladden a healthy, intimate sex life between a husband and wife.
If she believes that it's wrong, consequently she shouldn't do it. But I don't think it's right to deny her sexuality either. After adjectives, we're humans. We have needs.
I chew over telling her to stop watching porn was the right point to do because if anything, it would be the porn that would make me most guilty. But I don't think relating her to ask for God's forgiveness was the best option -- it make her believe that healthy sexuality is wrong. After all, what's the injure in masterbation? Because it feels polite? I mean, it's a way to revise about your body, releases tension, improve self-esteem (yes, it does!) in a way specifically pregnancy and STD proof.
What kind of message is religion sending if we deny our sexuality even if it's perfectly on top form and safe..
yeah but if shes addicted she might need more than of late willpower. im a christian and so is my boyfriend and he todl me hes been addicted to porn for the last year and a partially, but hes stopping. he bought this book called every young man battle and it talks in the order of that stuff, actually his uncle (the camp counselor) give him it. he told his uncle before he told me, when he was at a military camp. maybe give her every young-looking womans battle, its like matching. call her everynight if youre close to keep her in charge, tell her youll help her through it and ring her and see if she can call you or her friend when she wants to do those helpful of things and get her mind off it, or put in the picture her to watch tv, cook, draw, write, do a devotion or pray when shes feeling close to doing something like that. at night immediately my bf wont go on the computer because he knows he cant put himself contained by a situation. hope this helps if you have any question feel free to IM or email me I would tell her that there's nought wrong with it and that masturbation is fun and a great stress reliever.
I wouldn't get any priests involved, or gross her feel worse by telling her she should pray to stop. It really isn't that big of a accord. Unless she's underage and watching porn. But masturbation is no big thing..
No its ok to masterbate and watch porn! Its sorta lust though but I suppose just let it slide and influence its ok!