I cant get hold of an orgasm! HELP!
Answers: HOW OLD ARE YOU?
If you are before the age of 23 next it is just that your body isn't MATURE ENOUGH for you to orgasm with a partner.
You should hold been able to masturbate and own an orgasm before now though...
The ONLY road that you can find out how YOU work is to, literally, work on yourself... Every woman on earth is different and what brings me to orgasm may have no effect on you what so ever... Some women can ONLY orgasm beside oral sex... Only 10percent of ALL WOMEN ON EARTH are able to orgasm with infiltration alone!!
That is what you need to remember... Penetration doesn't do ANYTHING for most women!!
The next entity you need to learn is that while it is ALL ABOUT PHYSICAL SENSATION for MEN… Women are MENTAL CREATURES and no event how hard your fiancé ‘works on you’, if you are not MENTALLY in to it later nothing will EVER happen…
Women are complicated creatures and if we had a fruitless day, we will be numb from the neck down within the bedroom!!
You sound inexperienced and I am assuming that you haven’t found what your “In To” yet… That is another problem you need to overcome…
When I be with my x-fiancé, he was contained by to porn… I thought it was stupid…
When I was next to my x-fiancé, I wanted to be the submissive partner… But he was humiliated with that because HE wanted to be the submissive one surrounded by the bedroom… But neither of us realized that THAT was the problem at the time.
It be that he didn’t feel comfortable in expressing what he KNEW HE WANTED and I be too inexperienced to really KNOW what I wanted…
It wasn’t until much later that I found out what made MY BODY respond…
It wasn’t until a year and a half AFTER I kicked him out of my condo that I discovered that I didn’t close to “Porn” but I did like “Hentai”. (Japanese Animated Porn)
It wasn’t until 2 or 3 years later that I REALIZED that I needed to be the submissive member of the bedroom relationship…
ALL of these realizations didn’t arise until I was comfortable enough within my own skin to experiment and think ‘outside the box’ and stop feeling confused about what I fanaticized about.
THE MORE YOU STRESS OUT ABOUT THIS, THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO HAVE AN ORGASM!!
Remember that…
You will ‘come’ when you touch comfortable enough in your own skin and contained by your relationship to start to experiment with your feelings… physical and mental…
You never know what will be “The Thing” that turns you on until one day you will find it and EVERYTHING will snap within to place… Suddenly the whole sex thing will label sense… You just need to hold on to working at it and looking at yourself until you FIND your one major turn on!
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Something to spice things up…
Start with a “Bullet Vibe” or an “Egg” vibe for underneath $20.00 and see if that helps move you to the big-o.
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Night-Light Silver Bullet Vibrator (B922)
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Mini Bullet One Touch Vibrator (C052)
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You will find your one big turn on… It may take a while but as long as you hold an open mind and don’t stop trying to figure out how YOU work, so you can SHOW HIM… next you will figure it all out!.
Most women experience orgasms through masturbation and not through sex. If you want to enjoy one during sex then ask him to stimulate your clitoris, or in other words, enjoy him give you oral sex. Try new positions approaching you being on top. Most women reach orgasm faster individual on top and being able to control where on earth his penis goes inside of you. Best of luck. I'm the same route with my boyfriend :P haha This is what you do while hes on top or w/e play with yourself. he will infer its hot. or turn around and hit it from the back it will make him be in motion in deeper and play with yourself. If the problem not him staying not easy long enough or cumming to soon then it could a short time ago be you. Play with yourself because if hes not doing the job after you do the job! :P He won't even know!.
Has he tried stimulating the clitoris? Sometimes that helps. And Kegel exercises, I found that it's easier to climax when I've done my sexercises. Have him play near your nipples, that can release oxytocin, which helps your uterus contract.
You may just want to do some foreplay stuff, like massage and sensual touch until that time you start making love. Also, you may try new positions and role playing. .
most girls experience their first orgasm through masturbation and not through sex. this is because sex does not 'hit' the right part of ours bodies. You requirement to masturbate your clitoris which is the way you get an orgasm or on your G-spot. Try when you are relaxed and grant it a go.
FYI: Also oral sex is good for getting orgasms! .
If you hold never had one by yourself and are not sure what to do go to library and capture a book and share it with him. You can try it by yourself first. You need to know how to tell him what feels angelic to you for him to know. Hope this helps 4 play.
try having a orgasim beside oral and heaving petting then get into intercourse. acquire warmed up..
What he has to do is undress you slowly while kissing those buried areas of the body, when you are about to explode tell him to telephone call ME!
HE'S NOT DOING SOMETHING RIGHT! Vibrators are your friend.
how old are you ?