Help i cant orgasm and its reeli getting my bf down :( whats wrong beside me?
Few facts first
Porn does nothing for me
And i dnt masterbate does nothing for me
Never enjoy orgasmd
Im over 18
its just really getting him down :( i need sum help out
Sex is awsum
But why cant i orgasm?
Help!
Answers: Ignore the first answerer, your hormones have nothing at adjectives to do with orgasms, if they did, there would be seriously less orgasms in the world.
Anyway to answer your query, it might just be you need for a moment extra stimulation than others and stressing about it isn't going to help, a watch pot never boils, the same thing go here, if you're waiting for it, it's unlikely to happen.
Tell your boyfriend it's not his fault, because it's not and it's not your failure either, some people basically find it harder to orgasm than others.
First off, the sex is great so don't stop, lots of guys think we want to orgasm to be having fun in a bed, what a nouns of rubbish, I love sex, but don't always orgasm, I don't care because it's still be great.
Secondly, work on your fore-play, we're not like guys, we can't just progress straight into it and then come, we need "warm up" so to speak. Tongues, fingers, anything works as long as it turns you on, if you're not turned on there is less of a unpredictability of you having an orgasm.
Go search the trellis, or try http://www.sexinfo101.com for tips etc that might help you.
Keep working at it, stop stressing about it and it'll come to pass.
Most of all HAVE FUN trying to find the elusive big O, if it be easy to find, we'd all be walking around have constant orgasms.
(As a side note, not everyone orgasm's from penetration alone, most of us want clitoral stimulation, so try that if you can during sex and see if that helps).
I think its probably because you are focusing on reaching an orgasm so much that you are becoming stressed and this is stopping you. Do you get aroused beforehand sex? This is important because if you are not in the 'mood', later it probably won't happen. Make sure that you take portion in foreplay together, let your boyfriend kiss, touch and fondle your body and you do the same to him. Maybe put on some music that will set the mood and make sure that nought can disturb you e.g turn off phone, lock the door etc. Let your boyfriend know what feels honourable and what doesnt feel good. Tease eachother (this will breed you more aroused). Maybe buy some sex toys? You could use a vibrator just on your clitoris during sex, this is likely to clear you orgasm. Most women do not orgasm just by penetration alone, they stipulation some stimulation on their clitoris because this is the most sensitive part. Also remember to stay relaxed and dont worry too much roughly the orgasms, the more you forget about it and experiment in bed and hold fun the more likely it is to happen. I agree next to first answer, hormones! You can try some of the mood enhancing pills sold over the counter or, try the topical cream to enhance sensation. Have him stimulate your clitoris during intercourse(or do it yourself) this will offer you a better sensation to have external and internal stimulation at indistinguishable time. Play around a lot before sex that mode you are really horny because the hornier you are, the more of a chance you will orgasm! You could also buy some toys! Sounds gross but have him insert a short time ago the very tip of his finger into your anus and provide anal stimulation while you are on top(being on top give friction to the clitoris)! Porn does not receive everyone horny, some people are just not into it! Have lots of fun and worthy luck!.
sometimes people explore themselves and they find things that turn them on that their partner isn't fulfilling.
Its not their partners denounce,how are they to know unless they are told.
Do you feel completely relaxed with your partner?sometimes not letting yourself go(by not relaxing) make it impossible to orgasm.
There is also the trust factor,if you dont really trust him then again you wont relax.
Do you find yourself being distracted when have sex and telling yourself this is the time you will orgasm?if so,then your not relaxing yourself and you will never orgasm.
I know you said you dont masturbate but you will be suprised what it can do for you and you may find yourself have feelings and thoughts you dont when your with your boyfriend,its faultlessly normal and anyway,who is going to know unless you wear a t-shirt saying "HEY,I MASTURBATE"
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I have this problem for a looong time. I never got off during sex until a few years ago. The single way I was competent to was if I masturbated. I hate to say-so it but maybe you are masturbating wrong? Try a clitoris stimulator since that is where on earth it is the most sensitive. Has he ever gone down on you? The only position I can get rotten on during sex is when I am on top bc I know what gets me there but oral works wonders! Good luck chicky. Oh and variety sure he doesn't finish until you do that's what we do and that will usually cause a same time climax. There is a small percentage of women that never have an orgasm. Others hold one after they have their first child or into their 30's. Get your hormones checked by a doctor. Most women do not have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. It requires direct booklet, oral or toy stimulation to your clitoris - hand, finger, shower massager, vibrator, hand held body massager.
If you don't know what turns you on and what arouses you, next you can't teach your guy..
Some times during sex, females have a tough time having an orgasm. Oral sex and foreplay can help work up to it. Maybe you guys involve to have a week to not have sex and find out where on earth the "O" buttons are. Just play around, you may find a spot that really works for you. And a new spot for him! Good luck and have fun playing around! Im within the same boat as you. Im 19 and i have simply had one orgasm. And at that time i wasnt even in the mood and i be buzzing. I talked to my gyno about it and she said it is concrete for females to O. she said sexual intercourse usually doesnt work for the girl. thats mostly the guy. here is what she told me to do...
*watch porn together
**drink some alcohol
***buy a vibrator and let him use it on you.
***8let him go down on you***(she said this be number 1 for a girl to orgasm)
UM DONT LISTEN TO THESE CRAZY PEOPLE. ODDS ARE YOUR MAN IS NOT THE PROBLEM. ITS COMMON FOR GIRLS NOT TO ORGASM AS MUCH AS MEN. MY FRIENDS MOM CAN COUNT HER ORGASMS ON BOTH HANDS. DONT LET IT GET YOU DOWN OR HIM. MY BOYFRIEND WAS THE SAME WAY.
GOODLUCK..
It make take a few years until you are competent to orgasm, I don't know how long you have been sexually alive for. The other thing is, your boyfriend may not be such a smooth operator. It may be due to physical or psychological idea. You may have to get proper medical oblige. Visit your GP and ask where to go..
Maybe you're doing it the wrong passageway?
Try masterbating, see if it works then.
Anyways, i hope it won't break your relationship with him.
Good Luck.
capably its his fault if he cant press your buttons, sorry to put it that way, or it could be related to stress, try eaitng sum aferodisiacs n gettin kinky lol Go to the doctor your hormones are out of wack..
Buy yrself a vibrator. If that doesn't generate u come, nothing will. just see terrry woogan for 5 days that will stop it! oochy.
rub ur clit