Pressured into Tubal ligation?
My husband and I talked going on for this before marriage. I already told him I am not have a baby. All of the sudden he keeps chitchat about all the “wonderful & fun reason to have kids”. He wants a child i.e. half of each of us. He is also chitchat about me getting the surgery reversed.
Since he brought this subject up this past weekend.I thought almost the time when I got my tubes tied. My mother was the chief reason I had the surgery. She be always VERY over-protective of me. (I have physical disabilities)
I am allergic to standard anesthesia and need to have a c-section because of my hips. I cannot own an epidural or spinal tap because of my spine.
However, my mother in regulation told me that they use LOCAL anesthesia for c-sections. She was an Operating Room technician at the hospital.
I can’t help but wonder if I be pressured into my mother decision when I was younger. Do anyone hold any insight on this?
Answers: Well, first of all, I can't for the life of me make out what doctor would perform a tubal ligation on a 21 year old womanly - regardless of whether she had a physical disability or not. Did the doctor recommend that you have a tubal ligation? Or be your mother afraid of whatever disability that you have individual passed on to your child?
If you weren't interested in having children or it be recommended that you don't, a GOOD, responsible doctor would have discussed hormonal birth control methods first (like Depo-Provera or the implant which both own good long-term effectiveness against pregnancy).
Second of adjectives, so you'd have to have a C-section to hold a baby. LOTS of women have C-sections every morning. Yes, there are risks and complications, but there are risks and complications beside vaginal births.
Just and FYI about this: There is a woman that was born beside a condition that made her legs completely useless, so when she was a child, her parents decided to hold her legs and hips amputated. As an adult she gave birth to, not newly one, but TWO children. People who have different forms of dwarfism (little people) get pregnant and hold children (look at "Little People, Big World" on TLC - the mother on there gave birth to four kids and she have twins - she carried TWINS!) so it IS possible.
You can have your tubal ligation reversed but there is a possibility that it won't bring. Especially if they sautered off the ends when they tied them. If they used the clips, then near is a possibility that you could have no problem getting pregnant.
Yes, usually they use a local anethesia (i.e. epidural or spinal block) when performing C-sections, but they can and do use general when and if needed. Especially when the situation call for it (sometimes they have real emergency where they have to knock the mother out completely). A C-section is so quick that the minute they anesthetize the mother and she is out they immediately open her up and procure the baby out before the drugs hold the ability to affect the baby.
Yes, I suggest your mom may have had a bit too much influence on you. You should see a specialist who is experienced contained by your form of disability and see if physically it could be safe for you to have a child. Sometimes parents, especially those of disabled children, don't donate their children enough credit or are afraid that their child will be hurt or unable to thoroughness for the baby. You should let this be your result if, God willing, you find out that you can carry a child.
Good luck and Godspeed, sweetie!.
Nobody should hold been pressured into elective surgery because you may regret it later. Using a surrogate is a locked way to have your biological child. Your doctor injects hormones into you to label your ovaries produce plenty of eggs. These eggs are then harvested by laparoscopy, fertilized using your husband's sperms surrounded by a Petri dish, and the fertilized embryo is implanted into a surrogate mother. This can get very expensive, and your surrogate may correct her mind later and decides to preserve the baby. I would make an appt. next to an OB/Gyn to ask for advice. Tubal ligations are easily reversed and your mother surrounded by law is absolutely right on the local for c-sections. If you're likely to rely on God and go ahead with have children (which would only be a blessing, by the way!) I say-so, go for it! Get some professional advice and clear your hubby happy with a infant! God bless you!.
I don't think it is possible to answer this without more information, but you requirement to look at what kind of complications you would suffer. If they are serious...you can get other opinion from other doctors on this...more than one...you might want to heed the advice.
This is your body and your life. Not a short time ago your husband's.
I knew a woman who was to a degree blind. Her blind husband insisted she have a cornea transplant. She did it. Saw clearly for about a week, consequently lost not only her vision but her eyes to infection. He without delay left her because he coudln't be married to a blind woman.
This is an extreme example, but it shows what can happen when a husband is not respectful of his wife's wants and capabilities. Your husband should love you first, ahead of any children he might have to put on a pedestal without you.
Now, if you learn that the complications are not serious or no longer exist and you want to whip the risk of reversing the surgery and pregnancy, then you might want to make that choice.
An adopt child would emotionally be half you and half him. Go slowly and reason this through. Talk to your girlfriends and other women. Talk to your husband about what the effects would be on you and about adoption or not have children. You did tell him ahead of time.
May you find the right answer for you.