I infer i'm contained by an wounding relationship?
I love him to death and i know he loves me.
im not sure what i should do? advice?
Answers: YOU'RE 15 FOR GODSAKES GET OUT!
you don't obligation this especially at this young age. This isn't love, even if you're pregnant that doesn't mean it's true love. You haven't experienced plenty life yet. You're with the sole purpose questioning this because you're in denial it's adjectives for women in abusive relationships, he most definately does not love you if he is going to do this to you. He requirements someone to control.
He already is showing signs of physical abuse not to mention mental and emotional misuse. He drinks and smokes because he has a problem with anger and think it's cool to do. He's 17 not 21 so this is wrong. He says he's sorry so you'll shut up. All he wants to do is control any and everything you do it's a sickness. And by you staying near him is only going to make him surmise what he's doing is ok, and he wins per say. IT'S NOT ok by any method.
You don't want to end up at 15 years old within the hospital beat up and bleeding out because you now miscarried your child.
So be become fully grown about it and break up with him. It is the best point you can do. He needs to learn that it's not ok. Worry around you, not about how it's going to make him touch.
Have you told your parents or guardian? Cause I know for a fact if you did he would be out of the picture. Just stop questioning if you should be near him...you shouldn't. You're pregnant so now is time to be a responsible adult at 15..
Well, I know how it is, but I'm afraid that it's true, associates with those traits just bring worse and worse as time passes. I'd recommend not staying with him. It will probably hurt similar to hell, but believe me after a few more months, or maybe even years, his behavior will just attain intolerable and you'll be too stuck on him to get away. And he'd be a bad father. These are the 1st signs of an Abusive relationship.Pregnant or Not you call for to get out of this relationship before he would do more mar to you .He is going to try and control you through your whole relationship and you are going to be very unsatisfied.Please break it off and get on next to your life..
you need to agree to him go...i recommend bringing someone with you when you break up next to him, just in travel case he tries to harm you. After the break, talk to your parents almost your pregnancy. Then after your parents are informed, they can maybe set up a meeting next to his parents and figure how you guys are going to tackle the situation. Yes this childish man is abusive. If he is like this while you are dating it is solely going to get worse. If you are pregnant then do you really want to bring a child into this offensive situation? Please for your sake as well as the babies either narrate this guy it is over unless he gets help for his anger issues or finale it now before you attain hurt..
omg im so sorry ur pregnet and your only 15 did u tell you mom on the other hand if you need any ferther advice you can email me nicoleregele(a)yahoo.com its okay i pace you friends will be there for you and i think that you should break up near him or maybe not no dont break up with him but omg,inform him you pregnet get help in a minute from family our a councilor and run like hell from this pig even if you plan to hang on to the child he will not make a good father.
grasp out! rigght away! u dont wanna end up dead! You necessitate to get out of that relationship NOW!! Abusive relationships start like that, but train so much worse! Please, for the sake of your baby, get out of the relationship NOW! If he touches you again within a way that makes you be aware of uncomfortable, tell him you'll name the cops if he does it one more time, and if he does, call them. I know it is complex to understand that he can do these things, but the more he does it, the more he thinks he have control over you. He could start hitting you, punching you, and put your baby in risk!.
Hunnie, you need to get out! Those 'little' things as you send for them are only signs of the worse to come. PLEASE! I am begging you, for the sake of you and your babe-in-arms get out now! Go to a parent and report to them about the baby, I'm sure near are people willing to abet you. I know dear that you think you're in love but true love does not hurt, whether he's 'kidding' or not.he should not be doing that. I'm here for anything, please agree to me know how things go. Listen girl i am being BLUNT ....read it thoroughly.
First of all at the age of 15 ur PREGNANT OMG...also u say ur not sure wat benevolent of a relationship u r in..if u dont know d kind of relation u r surrounded by the how can u sleep with some one so easily.....can u bar d responsibilty of the baby if u keep it...U r still a kid n may b lug pocket money from ur parents....or else u will commit a SIN like abortion.wat u've done is disgusting....wat ever it is very soon just get out of this rut tat u r surrounded by ....he has no right wat so ever to hurt u physically (even emotionally).ya but if ur parents come to know abt ur pregnancy how will they react.
& d final thing is is that u DONT love him to death......d age tat ur surrounded by doesnt even know wat true love is, all u folks can do is be attracted to some , hang out & sometimes own sex toooo early.
Straighten up girl .....pay attention to ur studies..
You do not want this man surrounded by your life and you especially do not want him anywhere near your child. You and your child will failure up with broken bones or worse.
He is a classic abuser, doing the stuff, apologizing and doing it again. Being worse with alcohol is a remarkably bad sign. He don't really love you, he loves the power trip of controlling you. The fact that he have unprotected sex with you and made you pregnant is just a further control factor.
Tell your parents that you are pregnant and talk to the counsellors at your local abused women's shelter. You have option for the pregnancy including adoption and abortion, but staying with him is the worst thing you can do.
You deserve much better..
I be going to say that it is fairly adjectives for a guy to be a little controlling at that age, as my husband was. However, I really contemplate you might be in an abusive relationship. My husband be controlling, but he never hurt me. If he so much as bruised me, he never shrugged it off as kidding next to me. It sounds like he knows that he is individual abusive, but is trying to play it off so you don't meditate he is. My husband had to do some extensive help to recede controlling. I would get someone you trust, preferably an adult, to move about with you and talk to him. If he's not liable to get help, he's not worth it.
I know you love him to destruction, and I understand that it will hurt so bad, but it may in recent times be a bad time for him to be in a relationship. Also, don't narrate him you're pregnant with him present, as he may be tempted to hit you contained by such a way that it would hurt you and your baby.
Be so alert. I don't know you, but I'll be thinking of you and know that people out there love you.
You're friends are right, you should break it bad with him. I would start by telling an fully fledged that you trust about it, since you may need minister to to get him to stay away from you.
Love you, and good luck..
I go to a medical forum (a pre-med experience) and a gynecologist talked to a few of us about domestic severity and to realize as soon as you THINK you are in an abusive relationship you should acquire out! Because if you've said you have only be in a relationship for a few months and he's already showing these signs then I wouldn't verbs on with it. Things can get worse in a flash and before you know it you could just be stuck near and wish you got out faster. There's 3 parts to the cycle: The abuse, the apology, and he'll just do it again. But usually it get worse and worse everytime because he thinks he has control over you. So any step up and tell him that if he really loves you he needs to stop what he's doing to you thats making you discomfited because obviously you aren't getting the vibe of him loving you by hurting you. If he doesn't cooperate with you afterwards it's time to move on there's plenty of sweet guys out there that don't assault you and actually care for you. It may merely take awhile to find a guy like that, but once you do it will be worth it :) Good luck!
Oh, and I only just read the last part that you be pregnant and trust me if he's abusing you he'll abuse the little one. He can start threatning you to take it at move away, you'll never know. Trust me, you and your parents can take diligence of the baby better than moving out. Plus, if he's 17 HE probably still lives with his parents. Your best bet is to stay home, not gain an abortion, and if you don't want the baby give it up for adoption. There's plenty of family who cannot conceive that would love to have your baby.
If you don't want to do it for yourself do it for your newborn - you deserve better than that :).
The first thing to do is to sit down with him within a serious conversation and clearly convey all your concerns. If he's not taking you seriously or gets angry that's the first sign of a problem. Don't set any ultimatums because that'll inflict unwanted tension in your relationship, but bring in sure to remind him often of how you want to be treated and how he's acting. If he's continues to be controlling or if it gets worse if you express your emotional state about the situation, it's time to move on even though it might break your heart. Things will simply gets worse if you stay with him and even more worse if you come rear to him again and again.
Trust me, I've been through this.